tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29663345707970646992012-01-28T06:59:35.931-05:00The Incited Contemplation Of A Gay Police OfficerBobby Crowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09426392665084437546noreply@blogger.comBlogger181100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2966334570797064699.post-73156125068782676102012-01-26T18:37:00.006-05:002012-01-26T18:56:02.892-05:00

I will admit that in the deep recesses of my spirit, I felt a familiar bend towards retribution last night on duty. A reminder of an inner discomfort. I honestly do not think that what was said to me last night at work was meant to be taken harsh, but more of an overall “watch your back” type conversation. I am still deliberating on how to respond. You know, the old cause and effect thing. There

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It is not uncommon to experience the violent side of people when working third shift. Alcohol induced attitudes of people can cause them to commit crime, become violent towards others, or they may try to harm themselves. Since I am the sergeant on third shift, I have to maintain a cool and collected persona so that my officers follow my lead when dealing with people who are literally out of

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Am I a weakness or a wake up call to the future of law enforcement? I personally believe that being a gay police officer has its advantages no matter what rank I currently hold. I am unsure if I am a singularity amongst my uniformed brethren. I have a unwavering belief that no one is entitled to strip the humanity of anyone they encounter on the job or within the workplace. Does this make me a

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It has been quite some time since I have posted or wrote anything upon this blog. Last night I decided to open my desk drawer on the internet and dust off the digital journal of thoughts, emotions, and happening in my life. Not since October 2010 have I posted anything relevant to my life or views. It was almost like going back and looking at an old photo album. I will admit, I lost the will to

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It has been some time since I have been able to play “catch up” when it pertains to this blog. A lot has been going on both professionally and personally in my life. I think there is going to be a lot of random chatter amongst my writing today. I wonder if anyone is reading this crap. Anyway, I am dividing this long ass blog into two parts. Work and Personal life.THE WORK FRONT………I know the

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A few years ago I snubbed the change of season that brings the expectation of gray skies, bitter rain soaked days, or even snow flurries dancing in the air. After all, the once brilliant spectrum of summers foliage now lay in random yards. Colorless and decomposing. It is the time when October gives way to November and frost becomes a regular visitor during the day and night. However, in a

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I like going back through my journals and experiencing the good, the bad, and the ugly that I have written about my personal and professional life. I happened to come across a particular writing from 2008 that really had me relating to present day issues. Specifically, the topic of people attempting or being bullies. Some of us have the inner strength to cope, while others do not. Sadly, it is

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When I returned to my “current” assignment at work, I knew I had my work cut out for me. Numerous court employees, and members of the criminal justice system were actually ecstatic that I had returned (at least the last name was there). My immediate families reputation amongst so many in the system carried some heavy weight. The reputation or respect was based on a good work ethic, no nonsense

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Taking control of the negative in my life was the most important lesson I could have learned. I embraced the idea that not everyone would accept me for being gay, or even being a gay police officer. I created a blank page in my life to start anew. On a professional level I was once the prey of the ignorant and narrow-minded. But what if I took on a new evolution of the “who I am”. So I

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I am very excited by discovering a fantastic forum of private discussion, debate, and support for only gay and lesbian criminal justice professionals. This would involve those who work within jobs like corrections, probation, law enforcement, parole, reserves, troopers, courts, dispatchers, E.M.T.’s, firefighters, and attorney’s. It only took me a short few minutes to register and I was accepted

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The “shit starters” and rumor mill queens were in a tizzy over union and administration related negotiations. Keep in mind, there was nothing agreed upon. However, the rumor mill made officers believe that the worst was about to happen. The hostility of this lackluster rumor spreading would spill over into my Facebook and upon my cell phone unsolicited. I was surrounded daily with officers who

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The word faggot is a term for a male homosexual that infers an insinuation of effeminacy, cowardice, or both. Just from personal experience I find this word beyond offensive. Now over the years I have grown a thick skin, so it really does not “hurt me” as I once believed it die. However, it does annoy me. It is a good way of getting some unwanted and negative attention from me on the job. It

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Aside from the lesbian officers, I am the only male officer that is openly gay in my department. There are quiet rumors and innuendos that other male officers are under “homo-suspicion” as they put it. When will these morons grow up? Many times I have been confronted with the statement that I have “paved the way” for gay officers to work at our department. I am unsure what to make of that belief

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Everyday officers are confronted with making choices on the job that are influenced by that “thin blue line“. I often relate this to a form of peer pressure within the ranks. There is a wide range of unwritten rules that apply to this unethical practice of making officer’s conform socially by their peers. I had such an experience today at work, that I was asked to “mind my own business”. For

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There was a moment in my past that the whirlwind of harassment and hostility at work brought me to the most lowest point in my life. The unconfirmed gay rumor was enough for many to start a war, and I would become their enemy without provocation. In the end, I would be laughing last. I have become an unstoppable force that tends to go overboard in reminding so many that “yes, you work with a gay

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For the last thirteen years I have routinely put on a black uniform, gold badge, sidearm, and the typical equipment you would find on a police officer’s duty belt. Each day I report for duty I remind myself that not only am I a police officer, but also a gay man. I am not detoured by hurdles of prejudice or stereotypes applied to those who may be considered different. After dealing with

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Many friends and some relatives have asked what is going on in my “love life”. I do not find it annoying or intrusive. People ask because they care or just have some curiosity. I am the type of person that has rarely been without someone by my side. But I think over time and through experience I have cooled my jets in terms of who I want. Currently, I am still single and I am neither happy or sad

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I have not been on this blog since May 31, 2010. I really have no particular excuse except that I have had nothing to say (well, nothing positive). Which is unfortunate, but the truth. However, I have made a lot of positive changes in the last couple of months. Some may be wondering where are all my previous posts have gone. They are stored upon a private blog. Something for me to go over

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